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It’s Sunday—the day I share what’s been on my mind this week. This email always sparks something for people. Take what suits you, leave the rest.

It’s my first time at the Super Bowl, and let me tell you—New Orleans is electric. I got here yesterday, ready to soak up the energy, the buzz, the sheer madness leading up to the big game. Last night, I hit the streets to take it all in, and what I saw? Let’s just say it was about more than football.

Because if there’s one thing that stood out, it was the anticipation, the excitement, and—most of all—the loyalty.Watching football fans show up for their teams—loud, proud, and all in—got me thinking. Not just about the game, but about relationships…

1. What If We Showed Up Like That for Our Partners?

I walked into a bar where a band was playing everything from Lynyrd Skynyrd to Queen. Right behind me? A group of Philadelphia Eagles fans chanting E-A-G-L-E-S!—completely hyping each other up.

Then, walking along Bourbon Street, I heard a lone “Go Birds!” from one side of the street, only to hear it echoed seconds later by someone else. Like a sonar, a way of finding each other, building connection, and reinforcing loyalty—just by calling out and getting a response.

It made me wonder:

• What would happen if we showed up with that much enthusiasm for our romantic partners?
• What if we called out more often—not to nag, complain, or correct, but to say, I see you. I’m here. I choose you.
• What if we celebrated our partner the way we celebrate our team—out loud, without hesitation, no matter who’s watching?

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2. Loyalty: Beyond the Game

Football fans bleed for their teams. Even when their team disappoints them, they don’t switch allegiances. They commit.They defend. They show up.

Imagine if we did the same in relationships. Not just in words but in action.

• How often do we hype up our partner?
• Do we defend our relationship in public?
• Do we show loyalty—not just in being with them, but in actively choosing them every day?

Loyalty isn’t just about staying—it’s about investing. It’s about making our partner feel like they matter, like they’re worth cheering for.

But sometimes, old patterns get in the way. We want to show up better, but emotions take over, words don’t come out right, and before we know it, the connection feels strained. That’s where I come in. My Concierge Coaching is designed for real-time support—when you need to talk before an important conversation or right after an argument, so you can shift from conflict to closeness. It’s your personal game plan for navigating tough moments in your relationship.

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3. Strangers Get More Play Than Our Partner?

Back in the bar, I saw patrons doing shots from a test tube—one end in the mouth of a complete stranger (a server), the other end in theirs. Bending, contorting, full body commitment just to get a drink.

A level of comfort, playfulness, and zero hesitation…with a stranger.

Yet, in relationships, we pull back. We hesitate. We shut down emotionally and physically with the person who knows us best. The one we should be closest to.

Why is it easier to lean into the moment with someone we don’t know, but harder with the person we’ve built a life with?

Maybe because strangers don’t hold history. No past fights. No baggage. No risk of rejection.

But that’s where relationships need our effort.

• The next time you feel yourself pulling away, ask: Would I let this moment pass with a stranger?
• If not, then why hold back with your partner?
• What if instead of retreating, you leaned in—physically, emotionally, with curiosity instead of hesitation?

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4. Your Challenge This Week

1. Call out to your partner—not for something negative, but to connect. A compliment. A playful moment. A simple “I love you.”
2. Hype them up. Defend them in public. Brag about them. Let them feel your loyalty.
3. Lean in. Next time you want to withdraw, do the opposite. Move closer. Engage. Stay present.

So here’s your challenge: Show up. Hype up. Lean in. Because the best teams don’t just play the game—they play for each other.

Now, I wanna hear from you:
¿What’s one way you show loyalty in your relationship? Hit reply and let me know.

Now, off to the SuperBowl!!!
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XO,

Blanca

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PPS: Know someone who could use a fresh perspective on relationships? Forward this email to them! A small shift in how we show up for our partners can make a huge difference—just like the best teams don’t just play, they play for each other. Let’s help more people turn conflict into closeness.

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